There is no topic of conversation that is as sinfully delightful, scandalous and full of taboos as sex. From the age of 10, it becomes virtually impossible for one to go an entire year without a heated discussion exploring the most primal and essential of human acts. However, No matter how numerous sex comes to our mouths, we (especially those under 25) still are just riding the wave with no real knowledge or guidance. Therefore, it wasn’t surprising when I was given a radio production assignment in my university I choose to talk about it.

I and my gang of eager sex talkers found our way to the outside the auditorium. We sat on the lush grass in the midst of a busy day, with the distant sounds of a Haryana road behind us. My co-anchor and I started the discussion casually, by asking what the guests (our friends from the campus) thought about sex. It was a general question with a general answer but what was common was the understanding that sex is the most intimate act between consenting individuals. It is neither to be shunned nor hidden because the cycle of life doesn’t complete itself without sex.

 As we got further and further into the conversation we settled on Sex Education. For all of us there, Indian and international citizens, sex Ed. was not thought in school neither was sex openly discussed over kitchen tables or without closed doors and confidants. What really shocked us was the mentality in which it was discussed whenever the topic did arise. For us, the international students, talking about sex meant learning and figuring out what is so coveted about it. We discussed and shared stories if anyone had first-hand experience or a near encounter. We as a society were openly honest and detailed about it whenever the conditions were right. This made what the Indian representative (the group had people representing different countries and demographics) said about the mentality of Indian youths towards sex shock us. Sex is a taboo: plain and simple. And talking about it in detail or with curiosity isn’t even normal. No matter how close individuals are it is uncomfortable to talk about sex except as a form of satire. I instantly opposed the idea, because I had personally talked about sex with Indian youths, so it couldn’t be true. The reality was, the ones that have these conversations were always considered the immoral ones. And when talking about Indian youths, the metropolitan top 10% hardly represent the majority. It wasn’t that sex wasn’t discussed, it’s just that the population of youth that does discuss it was near inconsequential in a nation as large as India. Upon hearing this, the only Masters student in the group told us one of the instances in which sex became a major issue even in our university. As a bioscience student reproduction and all its sub-elements is a fundamental part, and in one of their courses which entailed the mechanics of human sex; parents of the students protested against the course forcing the university to eliminate the topic from the curriculum entirely.

This revelation shifted the course of our conversation. Indeed sex is not a subject to be taken lightly because it consists of many psychological, emotional and physical factors, however, treating it like a time-bomb hasn’t really helped anyone, especially the youths. The rules of prior centuries can in no way continue to govern something as indispensable as sex and sexuality. We live in a world where sex and sexuality are at the forefront, and one of the best and most effective ways to combat the confusion is to educate. Sex Ed. is now not a luxury but a necessity to combat issues like sexuality, gender identity, sexual orientation, population control, body image, gender equality, respect within opposite genders and finally respect in a relationship. These will further reduce social issues such as rape, molestation, gender discrimination etc. however, it is important to understand that the sex Ed. needed isn’t just the general ‘birds and bees’ conversation which is generally provided. A detailed and less clinical approach has to be taken which will educate the young as well as comfort parents. This means that sex Ed. is to be looked at as a means to educate and empower not create promiscuous young adults. Furthermore, sex Ed. as a course should not be restricted to teenagers under the age of 18. Universities and colleges should also provide a deeper and broader continuation to the sex Ed. provided in secondary schools. At the end of the day, all this will help develop adults with cognitive, emotional, social and physical functionality (collectively one’s self).

It is understandable for parents and guardians to want to shield and preserve the innocence of youths from the mature nature of sex, which was easily achieved initially by keeping the topic in the dark… for as long as possible. Unfortunately, we live in the 21st century: an era of globalization, internet dependency and usage of sex for advertisement. No matter which rock one lives under, sex is no longer as opaque as it used to be. Rather than allowing mature substances like porn, erotica, the Kardashians and swimsuit models (on hoods) rule the future perception of such a delicate and fundamental topic we should enforce an environment which will handle sex appropriately. In simple words, we should insist on sex Ed.

Frank Zappa said, If you want to get laid, go to college. If you want an education, go to the library”, expressing the need to acquire a knowledge of sex not just in the act. Our discussion, in the end, was not aired but it made me and my friends realise the fight for sex Ed. is one we all must be part of.

I wanna know what you guys think about sex, sex-ed and sex needs to be placed in our education systems, in the comment box.


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